It may show up as procrastination but deeper there’s a survival mechanism.

💕You have a big heart and you love to give.

But you give without limits.

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💕You grew up feeling responsible for others around you - as if you came in to care for others more than for yourself.

Receiving is hard. At times.

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💕You notice you need to receive when you’ve hit rock bottom, burn out or are deep in resentment.

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💕You may end up in relationships with people (friends family spouses) where you carry the load and at times that’s ok because it helps you feel safer. At least you don’t have to rely on anyone else.

This though blocks spirit from fully coming in to give you well-deserved assistance and flow.

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💕Knowing your true life purpose is hard when you’ve let so much of other people come first before you.

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💕 You struggle to focus on getting things done for your business and you procrastinate. You find that if no one is directly asking you for something you spin and feel scattered.

 

💕 You can’t find your niche because you want to help everybody and since your messaging gets lost online you feel depleted.

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💕You wish you could protect your energy better at work and get a better handle on your emotions that spill over to ruin your creativity. Emotions make you exhausted.

 

💕 Money is not coming in regularly. It’s about giving more than receiving for you anyway... yes but ... you’re feeling trapped by this archetype... it’s getting old and doesn’t help with the anxiety and stress.

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💕At work saying no is a challenge. You don't speak up for yourself and instead, keep things in.

Here’s the root of this pattern and archetype:

 

➤It comes from having learned early on, I'm safe and I'm seen when I help and when I don't take too much room.

 

➤ My needs aren't important. I don't feel safe unless I stop listening to what I want and instead focus on doing what others around me ask me to do.

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➤ In regressions, I've seen my client's inner child stop loving themselves and stopped desiring to live their life fully because they felt they were a nuisance or took too much room. So they made themselves small and kept to themselves. This could show up as apathy and depression later in life.

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➤ We are happy if we are being of service.

Yes, but we are also living a smaller life than perhaps we are meant to live.

 

➤ We feel disempowered and our go-to beliefs are:

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- I’ll do it later

- Other things are more important I need to do today for my kids and family.

- I’ll never make it so what’s the point

- apathy

- grief

And sometimes peaks of anger and resentment

 

➤ Breaking through the income plateau feels really hard.

You are stuck between staying an employee and starting your own business and keep going back and forth between the two.

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➤You make progress with your dream and your vision and go back to what’s familiar: Doing things for free and doing things for others.

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➤ Passive income is hard to create even if you've tried for years.

 

➤ You keep giving away your work or charge too little to make it work.